Stuck In a Rut!!!

Sometimes, we just keep putting things off.  For no good reason at all.  We just never get up and do anything.  

I've been there.  I'm there right now. 

For me, I just feel too overwhelmed having so many things I want to do and accomplish, that I simply shut down and literally do nothing.  

So, how do we change?  How do I change?  

 One trick that I use to get myself going is: to tackle one small, tangible thing in order to get "gassed up" to take on the bigger, more conceptual things.  

Example: I re-organized my pantry.  This was a very tangible, very concrete task.  

I can feel the difference.  See the difference. Use the difference.  

And the result:  I feel accomplished!  Which gives me all kinds of motivation and confidence to complete another (much more important) task.  

That thing you've wanted to do...it might be: writing a book, starting a business, creating a budget, building your website, starting a project at work, volunteering in your community, or joining a committee at church.  

Whatever it is....get started!  

OR, if you're finding it hard to get started, do something else first. Something tangible, something easier.  Something you can complete!

 Then, find the confidence and drive to move on to the thing that you really want to do.  

Here's the before and after of my "easy task".

Before

Before

After

Added Chalk Board Paint:)

                               

A Confession...

I have a confession......

I'm not the Mom I thought I would be.  I'm not the Mom I want to be. 

I thought I would be able to easily breast feed for two years and reap all the benefits: incredible bond between mother and child, saving tons of money, health benefits for both mother and baby.  Well, two years was a big dream.  Let's try 5 weeks!  Yeah, I didn't accomplish that one.

I thought I would be super careful about the foods that my child eats.  It started out good.  I made all of his foods from fresh fruits and veggies.  I even made his cereal from whole oats- none of that boxed cereal.  Well, that was before he could talk and had a personality and perfected the toddler tantrum!  Some days, I'm just way too overwhelmed to wrestle away the bag of Cheetos that he just swiped from the pantry while I was so delicately preparing his oatmeal and fresh cut fruits.  JUST EAT THE FREAKIN CHEETOS!!!!

I thought I would be all about healthy stimulation, like reading and exploring outside- No T.V.  Well, let's just say, If you love Dora and she has two 30 min shows on back to back everyday, that means I get an hour to clean, or cook, or check email, or just sit there.  So, pass me the remote.  That is, until you learn how to do it yourself:).

I thought I would be the Mom that pushed through when she wasn't feeling well and tended to every need of my child.  Well, I'm not!  I just want what everybody else wants.  Sleep and quiet.  If that means that baby is with Nana or Daddy, then that's just what it means. 

And guess what else:  sometimes my baby runs around in just his diaper, and he eats candy, and he refuses to take a bath- And, I just give in :-/  Worst of all, he's 18 months and still has a pacifier.  I know, I know, I'm such a failure.

These are hard truths for me.  But, I felt like maybe someone else needed to hear this.  At least I needed to confess it.  Now, that I've put it out there, I can relax.  I'm not perfect.  I'm not the Mom I thought I would be.  I not the Mom I want to be.

But, what I do know- and this is just as important, so listen up-  I'M THE MOM....period!  After a day of work, my baby will knock down anyone in his way to run and hug me.  He prefers me over anyone and anything else.  I see pure joy in his eyes and his smile when he looks at me.  That has to count for something, right?

So, even though I'm not the Mom I thought I would be.  And I not the Mom I want to be.  I must be the MOM he NEEDS me to be.  I'll take that:)